Search husband on dating sites
OP just found evidence of using the site on her H's history, so she doesn't know how often he's been on there, and she doesn't know if he's done anything other than look.
If my DH was regularly spending time on those kinds of sites I wouldn't like it either, and would expect him to stop. He is in his early 50s and I'm in my late 30s and he has definately been going through a mid-life crisis - we've even laughed about it.
It's the going behind my back that is difficult and wondering if he is bored of me.
I know he doesn't like my body (won't dare admit it).
He needs to talk to you and also get some medical advice re the impotence.
Would he agree to some counselling if he's not too good at talking things through with you?
I don't think people should put up with it and am not saying it's 'normal' to spend time online with other women and neglecting your partner.
I just wanted to make the point that lots of people have a look at those sites out of curiosity, without any intention of ever having an affair.
Wherecan Ihide I'm sorry you've been having problems.
People do go on them for a flirt, it's not all meeting up.
So it then depends on where your boundary is for what is cheating.
But relationships are about RL and love and accepting someone for what they are, aren't they?
Don't let your perfectly normal sounding body be any kind of issue or excuse in this.