Ruining a friendship by dating
The first kiss my boyfriend and I shared as friends-who-now-know-they-like-each-other was nothing short of terrifying. I was convinced we had no chemistry and that I ruined a perfectly-great friendship. Sure, friend-to-partner transitions can be magical and simple, but they can also be confusing and anxiety-inducing as all hell if you're someone who doubts themselves a lot.I pulled him into what I thought would be a sweeping, spark-filled smooch and he just stood there, hardly moving. (Then date two happened and we successfully made out after talking out the awkwardness sh*t storm that was our first date and all was well! Luckily, there are steps along the way to make this whole process less like the most stressful thing that's ever happened to you."No hard feelings if you aren't interested, I'm happy to be your friend" or something of that nature - but only say it if you really mean it! Please don't ever make a melodramatic statement like " I value our friendship, can we have sex? It will only make the situation exponentially more awkward. Note: This template probably won't work if you have shown no interest in her in the time you've known her. I went through this similar scenario today, Girl seems to like me i'm not sure if she really does. Instead of telling her you have feelings for her, just ask if she has feelings for you. Hey ( name) I've noticed something about you the last few months and my curiosity has gotten the best of me. So if you could clarify that would be great :)Okay, Mr Rex. there's no way that you'll be able to ask this girl out without any repercussions.I don't know how passive you have been during the time you've known her, but ALL you have do it say: "Hey (name here), you want to grab some lunch with me? (Again I don't know how long this has been going on) Take her out again and be a little more forward. The relationship you've explained sounds extremely platonic, she probably doesn't see you as a sexual being. Find out what guys she likes, what turns her on, get out of that friendzone and into a potential partner frame.
Common signs she may start liking you: Longing looks, playing with hair whilst talking/looking at you, biting lip, touching lips, laughing, smiling, blushing, pushing out breasts, anxious movements.Theresa Di Donato, Associate Professor of Psychology at Loyola University."It can give you a safe space to see if the other person flirts back.” It doesn't have to be anything too overt right away – we started off with dressing room selfies where we asked each other's opinions on outfits we already knew we looked really good in.I guess my questions are, how can I approach her and ask if she is interested while minimizing the awkwardness if she isn't interested.Another question is what are some common signs that show that she may be interested in me? No matter what she says, keep treating her like your friend. Doesn't mean she now hated you, just that she doesn't want to date you.