For instance: Even if your daughter resists your attempts, don’t give up. “Trust that your main message is getting through.” Do Some Soul Searching Sex is a loaded topic at any age.If you have mixed feelings about your past or current sex life, do your best to come to terms with that before you talk to your daughter.As a parent, this is one of those opportunities to help your daughter learn through experience. Remind her that both she and the object of her affection are young.“An early love relationship can be a laboratory for how to be in a healthy relationship,” says Kantor. With a good dose of mutual respect and communication, they can learn about romance together.Admit That You Don’t Understand What if your daughter says you don’t understand the pressure she’s facing? As a mom, you can say, “I probably don’t understand.Maybe you can help me.” Then ask open-ended questions like: If you have your daughter’s trust, you can help her think through what she would do or say when the pressure is on.“If they see their parent getting upset, they’ll clam up.” While fear and anxiety can make some moms go overboard, it prevents others from saying enough.
Make Your Values Clear, Then Listen to Her You might want your daughter to wait until she’s married.
It’s hard for girls to look around at billboards, magazines, movies, TV, the Internet, and not believe that being sexy will make them desirable, glamorous, and/or loved.
What they did tell her, by way of rolling eyes, was that they didn’t want to talk about it. Your daughter already has some ideas about sex, for better or worse.
Your best intentions will fall flat if you come across as upset, afraid, or downright angry when you talk about sex.
“Most kids want to please their parents,” says Ilana Amrani-Cohen, LICSW, Ph D, director of the Families with Voices program at The Guidance Center in Cambridge, Mass.