However, compare the dating experience to looking for a job. Yet revising your résumé, applying at lots of places, and going on multiple interviews helps you to be less nervous each time you’re in a recruiter’s office and teaches you how to sell yourself to potential employers.
Similarly, by going on several first dates, you soon learn to be less self-conscious and focus more on how the date is going.
Here are some of the many advantages to going on dates with different people while making a decision about who is the best candidate for commitment.
It Speeds up the Process of Meeting the Right Person Some people go on a first date and, wow, the magic and the sparks are there immediately.
Sure, you liked him, but you also like Chad, Andrew, and Jake. They’ll have to ask you on real dates—Netflix and chill? Go ahead and wait until you find a guy you want to settle down with. You’re supposed to be going on fun dates, getting to know interesting people, learning about yourself, and trying to find someone you’re compatible with. You’ll learn what kind of people you’re attracted to and what kind of people you attract.
If you’re in the mood and your date tonight is game, go ahead and get some, girl! You’ll figure out what things you do that turn guys off and what things you do that men like.
Is dating multiple people dishonest, sleazy, and flat-out wrong?But, next time, if he oddly avoids sex, he might have just seen one of the other women the night before and feel confused. Men specifically hold back personal info from women they don’t want to lead on, since they know we’ll take that type of sharing as a sign they want to get serious with us.He repeats himself He tells you things he’s told you before. He either has a terrible memory, is a terrible listener, or he can’t keep all the info from all the different women straight. If this guy was taking things slow just because he wasn’t that into you, he wouldn’t kick up a fuss about you ending it.But for others, they have to date someone many times, maybe even over weeks or months, to know whether there’s chemistry in the air—and they may need to date several people before they finally feel that “click.” If you immediately exclude all other guys or gals from the moment you have your first lunch date with someone until his or her annoying laugh causes you to bolt two months later, you may have to go through several mini-relationships in a row before you’re done. Going on dates with a few different good candidates around the same time helps you find out fast who’s wrong, without forcing you to wait and wait and wait to find out who’s right.It Allows you to Compare and Contrast Life’s dating opportunities can be like a smorgasbord where everything looks pretty good—and like a smorgasbord, seeing all the opportunities out in front of you at once allows you to be selective.