Dating in 1970
The lesser problem was the concern that women had that they were endangering themselves meeting strangers about whom they knew very little. Stories circulated about women being lured to their deaths. Consequently, stratagems were developed to make such encounters somewhat safer, that is, refusal by the woman to give her home address, or even her telephone number.
Couples met for the first time in very public places. This was before the time of the “date rape” drugs; but women were especially careful, nevertheless, to drink very little.
The advertisements in The Village Voice were different than those in the various Jewish newspapers and different, also, from those in the New York Magazine.
Back in those days—before computers, or portable phones, or, even, electric typewriters—the rules were different.These precautions seemed less important after the first few times a woman responded to these published invitations to meet.It turned out the men they were introduced to this way were no more or less dangerous than men encountered for the first time in a bar, or even men whom they met through the recommendation of a friend. (A somewhat older, recently divorced, woman told me she was sitting with her date at a fancy restaurant when he took out his teeth and put them in a wine glass.) Being pro-active, as I usually am, I encouraged men and women, too, to try dating this way, although, certainly, only after taking reasonable precautions.The women reported to me that they did not feel threatened—although they were very likely to report that they felt disappointed. Most of the precautions I thought were important were against being stuck for a whole evening with a boring date.I especially recommended arranging to meet for the first time only for coffee or a drink.