Dating an american woman

I love our French men as long as I do not have to date them." "I don't have tons of experience with Americans, but the ones I have dated tend to be much more open about how they are feeling and what they want, which makes it easier to date. A certain degree of selfishness is essential for a well-working relationship and New Yorkers seem to have that built into their DNA." "As a general rule, Americans are not going to beat around the bush.When they feel something, they will tell you -- whether it's that they like, want, or don't like or want something.The consequence of this is a lack of understanding of women, a lack of comfort and often, a lack of respect. There is a courtesy, consideration, chivalry and thoughtfulness in how they act, behave and engage with others.They are also raised with strong family and community values, so there is a sense of responsibility and accountability for others, not just for the self.We must be aware of our own behavior in the dating game, because we are active participants in how we are treated.We must take a look at who we are drawn to in the first place, and why.The types of dates seen in movies – the formal ask, the fancy dinner and the entire dance that ensues simply doesn’t exist in the European mindset, in fact, the word “dating” isn’t even a part of their lexicon. Unlike American culture, where there’s almost a rite of passage which takes two people from “hooking up” to “seeing each other” to “dating” to “exclusive”, these labels just aren’t a focus or concern for European men. Rather, the mentality is, “I like you, I want to see you, and if it’s enjoyable, let’s keep seeing each other”.

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In America, sexual education is not taught until one hits their teens, if they are taught at all. It’s no surprise that American men are left to their own devices, subconsciously learning about sex through porn and the media. The latest law passed in France where excessively skinny models need to prove their health is a testament to that.In American culture, there is a clear segregation of the sexes, boys play with boys and do boy things and girls do the same.Then these boys grow up and are exposed to the opposite sex in an abrupt, often sexualized way. This is definitely seen in how they treat not only women, but everyone around them.With European men, if there’s mutual interest, they keep seeing that person and don’t keep hunting for better options simultaneously. Nor will they freak out when discussions of commitment or future come up.The dynamic may or may not move into a serious relationship, but they are not trying to gather other options or back up plans in case it doesn’t. Americans (both men and women) have been socialized to play games, to act unavailable, to wait a particular amount of time before texting back…

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