Dating a recreational drug user
Staring into space quite often, giggling, asking me about patterns in my shirt. It especially hurt because we had had a particularly good week together and come to find out- he was microdosing every other day. I worry my ego and hurt feelings about my parents are being projected onto him because in reality his drug use has nothing to do with me or his love for me. If you prefer he stops then you are not controlling. I hate to say it, but this would be (and actually was) a red line for me. I have since described it to him like there was a kind of haze over his real personality.I also don't see a problem with using mushrooms once a year or so as I have found them to be very therapeutic. The solution rests in which choice you want to make. I could still make him out under the weed, but it was all fuzzy around the edges. I went on a date with a very attractive, intelligent and nice girl a few years my junior a some days ago.She wrote in her profile that drug use is a deal breaker for her. Now, I've been doing magic mushrooms for about five years in my life, maybe a dozen times total and only once in the last two years.My question is: Should I tell her immediately, later on in the relationship, or not at all?We both have a primary partner and I'm probably headed towards FWB with this girl, so there's no serious relationship in sight.He says he does not want to lose me but doesn't want to lie and say he will stop because he clearly can't. I'm glad he's willing to work on it but I still feel anxious about the whole thing. Microdosing is subtler, but I feel like the same idea is there. But here's the other thing - I have yet to stop being anxious about it.
But I don’t enjoy giving pain either and he wants to be spanked long and hard enough to make him cry.On top of this, he has recently started microdosing with shrooms but the biggest issue - he didn't tell me he was doing so. These are the facts upon which you should make your choice. But it's tough when the ratio of sober time to high time gets out of wack.Overall the microdosing was barely noticeable until I noticed tiny changes in his behavior. But like most humans you will most likely allow emotion to play into the equation and stay with your BF until either one of you can no longer live with the unhappiness related to this conflict of values. You are not being controlling or overreacting in any way. And I'm hoping telling you a bit about my experience will help you understand why. With pot smoking, he (we will call him ' S') smoked a lot, all day every day.I do it, but I hate it, and it kills my libido for days.He used to have a couple of “spank buds” but I don’t want him having erotic experiences with other men and this, for him, is the ultimate erotic experience. In addition to being a nationally syndicated sex advice columnist, the author of several books, and the host of the Savage Lovecast, Savage is “a deviant of the highest order” (Daily Caller).