Dating a pregnant girl
Thanks to my ever-expanding bump, I can completely avoid the type of partnership that would most likely have ended in a lot of wasted time—and wasted tears.Now that I’m six months into my pregnancy and undoubtedly showing, I can’t hide how serious I am about my plans for the future, and why should I? But I’m glad I chose to be a single mom By making the choice to power ahead with what I know is right for me, I have created an accidental filter that blocks the non-serious and non-committal.Men who want to date but aren’t interested in committing come clean with their intentions right away, saving me potential months of agonizing over why my new suitor won’t let me meet any of his friends or answer my texts in a timely fashion.And then there are the totally clueless, confused men who ask questions like “Um, are you even allowed to have sex while pregnant? ” I don’t think I need to explain why I’m happy to avoid those ones.
I feel that she is meant for me and I’m meant for her. I can tell you from professional experience – pregnant women get tired, emotional, uncomfortable, miserable (at times), scared, and vulnerable.
The problem is that she is pregnant, but not with my child. I wouldn’t want to date a pregnant woman – especially one carrying another man’s baby. But also keep in mind, while her baby’s father isn’t in the picture today, he might pop in later after she has the baby.
I’d be friends with her, be there for her, get to know her, understand her relationship with her baby’s father, and see if I still want to date her once she has the baby. Becoming intertwined in her life at such an unpredictable and unstable moment in her life is a lot for any man to handle.
I’d made the decision a few weeks earlier that once back from vacation, I’d start actively pursuing my plan to get pregnant on my own via donor, and I was feeling pretty excited about the future.
One evening, the pack of us ended up splitting pitchers of margaritas and plates of nachos at a local Mexican spot, and on our way out I overheard a heated conversation among a group of women at the table next to us.