Catholic girls and dating
Taking dating off the table until they are older frees up the girls to be themselves in these new situations, instead of worrying if he will ‘ask me out’ or want to ‘go steady’, or ‘go out’, or whatever the current exclusive terminology is.
Friendships with the opposite sex should first be cultivated Little girls’ first experience with a member of the opposite sex is her relationship with her father.
The skills she uses when communicating with her brothers are the same skills she will later use to communicate with other guys.
When parents encourage sibling bonding and teach their sons to protect their sisters, they are setting the groundwork for a happy later life for them both.
If her father is loving and protective, and pays appropriate attention to her by cheering her on in her accomplishments, whether those accomplishments are in soccer or dance or something else…compliments her on her femininity, telling her she looks pretty in a dress when she does or that he notices and likes her new haircut, he is encouraging her to take care of herself and value herself.
When a girl values herself by being valued first by her father (both for she accomplishes), this sets a lifelong trend of a girl having self respect.
In short, girls learn about man/woman relationships first by seeing the husband/wife mother/father relationship modeled in their home by their parents, and then by experiencing their relationship with their siblings (if they have them).
Last, they learn from chaperoned and parent controlled exposure in various social, academic and athletic settings.
Let’s face it- there are only two options to romantic boy/girl relationships- one- they will end up in marriage. The former is far less likely to happen than the latter, especially the younger the people are who are involved.
No matter their ages, their father will always look over them with a protective eye. The purpose of dating is ultimately to find a spouse.
Therefore, one-on-one casual dating before age 18 is pointless.
They attend supervised dances, skating parties and the like.
These social situations are healthy and normal, and encourage girls to see young men as people and friends first, not just as romantic interests.